Masturbating monogamously – The Honest Monogamist

By Aubrie Smith, co-editor-in-chief

When you invite someone else into your bedroom, when do you have time for yourself? Masturbating while in a relationship can get pretty tricky, but not only is it normal, it’s encouraged by everyone that just popped up on Google.

First, let’s get one thing straight: Masturbating is not a need, it’s a want. No one will die if they stop masturbaitng. That being said, there are several health benefits to orgasiming frequently.

“I cannot fall asleep without masturbating first,” said a Collegiate staff member. “It’s part of my nighttime routine; it relaxes me and makes me forget about my anxieties.”

According to plannedparenthood.com, masturbating releases sexual tension, reduces stress, helps with sleeping issues, improves self-esteem, relieves menstrual cramps, muscle tension and more.

Socially, we are taught that masturbation is something not to be spoken about. Stereotypically, it’s something that girls shy away from and boys can’t get enough of, which is absolutely untrue. Masturbation is something that you and your partner should be discussing openly in a sexual relationship.

Your sex drive is personal to yourself, and it’s unrealistic to think that it will match up with your partners all the time.

Don’t rely on your partner to meet your needs every moment of every day. The thought that individuals in a relationship don’t need to masturbate is old-school thinking. It’s 2017, and we know that loving ourselves is more important – in every way.

According to mayoclinic.org, anxiety or depression, stress, low self-esteem and other factors all have effects on a person’s sex drive. As humans, we all encounter some of these at some point in our lives.

Masturbation can also help you understand your likes and dislikes. Self-experimentation is just as as experimenting with your partner, if not more. Not only does it make you feel sexy on your own, it can tell you about wants and needs that you never realized you had.

Unless masturbation is taking over your sex life involving your partner, do not be afraid to get more in touch with yourself, or let your partner have some alone time. It’s good for the soul to rub that pole. It’s not obscene to flick that bean. You do you, literally.

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