Tinder: good for your health, bad for your soul

By Aubrie Smith, copy editor.

How many people are you currently talking to? This question isn’t for the committed, it’s for the emotionally unattached.

This generation has been conditioned into boredom. Not to sound like a Luddite, but all of the technology that we’ve created has produced boredom with normal interactions and made us impatient with real world time.

“iCarly” episodes were only 15 minutes with commercials – I think about this often. When’s the last time you sat and watched a show with legitimate ads? I just binged watched “13 Reasons Why,” and I probably would have killed someone if Clay Jenson were interrupted by a 5-minute-long Coca-Cola commercial.

As a generation, we have been programmed by our use of technology, and instant need for gratification, to be stimulated by every single thing that we do. This is why homework is difficult; it’s not emotionally stimulating, therefore it’s draining.

I have found, more often than not, that individuals who are looking for a significant other are talking to multiple people at once, in hopes that one of them sticks. From a broad picture, that makes a lot of sense, but if you look closer, that’s just awful.

This generation is so bored with real life that we jump ship from relationships without investing any time with them. We get a boring text, so we just don’t reply. We never talk to that person again because they sent us three words instead of two paragraphs. We find one character flaw and drop that person because we know that someone new will swipe right on us that same night.

Tinder is perfect because we don’t feel obligated to pursue something with someone, so we can message multiple people at once, feeding our ego and easing our loneliness while never having to commit, never feeling bored while being attached to only one person.

Sure, having your phone notifications constantly going off can make your “brain chemicals” beyond satisfied, but in the long run, is it satisfying you?

There are obviously people in this generation who are single and not on Tinder (I envy you, you smooth-talking, charming, non-app-needing individuals), just as there are people in committed relationships who are on Tinder (I’ll keep my comments to myself). But for those of us who are single and on these dating apps, we need to break this cycle. Life would be so much more meaningful if we actually participated in it, enjoying the human interaction around us. We’re social beings, sure, but being social in meaningless increments won’t build relationships. Interact with people, don’t use them.

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